Let me first start by explaining a little about my situation. In 2003 my dad found out he had cancer. My husband and I decided to move back home to help my mom care for him and also to help cover some of the bills. During a conversation with Dad, he asked me to please stay there until my mom could get her life back together. My husband and I agreed to stay, not knowing it would be such a long stay.
Here it is 2008. We have our own daughter now, my mom has re-married, yet somehow we are still here "helping out". My mom's husband and mine do not get along, and tension has been insanely high. We spend so much to live here and help my mom still plus take care of my medical bills and our child that it has just been impossible to dig our way out of this "short term" agreement.
It's gotten to the point now that my husband and I were discussing divorce last week because we can't see eye to eye on how to get out of this situation. We don't have any money saved for a deposit, and our regular bills are eating up everything we bring home on our paychecks. We can't stop paying mom because she will literally throw us out. And we already work our tails off. So we have a pact that we will both do anything in our power to get together the money for an apartment.
Today, we went pricing and touring different apartments in the valley, and we have it narrowed down to 2 or 3 choices. The next step is to do that stuff we both promised to do to try to increase the savings so we can put a deposit on a place. So... here's my part. My Store Manager has put together this little ad. Please click on it to see just how bonkers I am right now... and dedicated to getting out of this house.
6 comments:
A HUGE GIANT HUG!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm keeping you in my prayers sweety!!!!!!
I just wish that I wasn't so financial staped that I could purchase this but I'm going to keep praying for you!!!
Have you checked into seeing if you can get some help?
Maybe church or the like
I know that she is your Mom but as I see it You've done as your Dad asked!
She has remarried now & you & hubby now have your own family which should come first!!!!!
HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
REMEMBER WE LOVE YA!!!!!!!!!!!!
Keeping you in my prayers that you can dig yourselves out of the hole you are in. Don't jump to the divorce wagon before you try everything possible, which often includes counseling. Right now, you need to be concerned with getting your immediate family problems solved. Think Mom needs to be more dependent on her new relationship rather than having your support.
Not a lawyer here, but consider legal help. If you've been living in your mom's home for almost 5 years and helping with bills, then you should have some legal rights to be there. She shouldn't be able to kick you out for not paying. I'm sorry to say this, but your mom is toxic. Please don't let her manipulate you or take any more advantage of you. Good luck!
HUGS!!! HUGS!!! HUGS!!! HUGS!!! HUGS!!! HUGS!!! HUGS!!!
thinking of you. Don't rush to the divorce........I just watched 19 years go down the toilet and am left figuring out how to keep my house.
Can you sit mom down and explain that you've done what you were asked and it is now time to move on?
Love thiis
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